6 Subtle Signs Your Cat Loves You

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Do cats love us? The love and trust a pet bestows upon us is unconditional. Most cats ask little in return. All we must do is provide food and shelter, take care of them, and enrich their environment to make all their natural desires come true.

For many folks, our furry companion is the ‘love’ of our life, with whom we share our daily pleasures and challenges, but how can we know if it’s reciprocated, especially since cats are known to be solitary and enigmatic?

Let’s explore intimately how cats convey ‘love’ and ways to help them to become content around us.

Do Cats Love Us?

Cats are a unique, intelligent, complex species that forms distinct bonds with their owners based on genetics, temperament, early socialization, and former experiences.

Cats don’t feel or display love the exact way humans do, but they’re influenced by positive and negative emotional motivators. A recent study discovered that felines care more about humans and use them as a source of comfort to feel secure once they are distressed.

The devotion a cat feels and shares with their parent can be just as solid as with a dog. Indeed, some moggies even get over-attached to their owners and may suffer separation-related problems.

If a cat chooses to spend time with you, looks forward to seeing you come home, and displays fondness, then the animal is bonded to you!

How Cats Show Love?

Although cats may show ‘love’ by demonstrating behaviour that can seem peculiar to us, cats are a cautious species and express affection and ease around another human or pet by using multi-sensory modalities (visual combined with olfactory and tactile) to relay diverse meanings.

Generally, body postures and behaviour give an overall impression of the emotional state together with the intention of the cat, whereas facial expressions provide more current info which may be altered rapidly in response to ever-changing situations.

Hence, it’s essential to read postural and variable facial expressions collectively to gain an accurate assessment of how your companion is feeling.

Certain visual signals communicate intent to make distance (hostile signals referred to as distance-increasing signals) while others express the intention to decrease distance (harmonious indications called distance-decreasing signals).

The latter tend to only be directed to those individuals the cat is familiar with and wants to interact with.

Visual signals that a cat would like to decrease the distance from an individual include holding the tail up, social rolling, and slow blinking. 

Scientists are now getting down to examine how cats and folks interconnect. Initial research showed that cats can follow people pointing gestures but lack a few of the behaviours dogs display, such as repeated staring at the person whilst purring is used by certain cats to solicit food, attention, and other desires from humans.

They also found that cats answer their owner’s name calling, however don’t respond to strangers who imitate their owner’s call (Heath, 2016).

Based on this research and our understanding of feline communication, we have identified several signs your cat feels comfortable around you.

Signs Your Cat Loves You

Our feline companions signal ‘love’ by displaying a few of the following behaviours:

#1  Bunting

cat bunting`

If your cat bumps you with their face (bunts), this is a good sign of comfort and familiarity.

Bunting occurs when your cat deposits chemical messages by facial rubbing their cheeks on you, brushing objects, walls, and furniture. Many cats also head-butt their humans with their forehead or brush against their heads.

Depositing of such scent messages conveys territoriality, helps a kitty feel more familiar in their environment, and is related with comfort together with friendly social interactions with someone they love.

#2 Social Rolling

cat social rolling

When a cat rolls onto their back, it’s a sign that they feel comfortable and safe.

This behaviour occurs in a number of circumstances, and it’s directed towards people, other cats, and in some situations, to other household pets the cat has a great relationship with.

When a cat is rolling as part of a social interaction with its owner as seen during this video, it transmits a greeting behaviour, communicating friendly intent and invitation to approach.

While it may act as an invite, it’s often misinterpreted as a proposal to touch the belly region, which it’s not, since a cat may get surprised and lash out by biting. We don’t recommend stroking a cat in this area unless your cat enjoys it.

#3 Purring

cat purring

While cats may occasionally also purr to comfort themselves in an unpleasant situation, purring usually indicates a feeling of comfort and wellbeing.

Purring usually communicates some variety of pleasure, presumably contentment.

Cats purr in a number of different contexts considered positive, for instance:

  • Kittens purr during nursing, and mothers purr whilst nursing kittens
  • When being stroked, talked to, or resting on a person’s lap
  • Resting or rubbing against a favoured pet companion
  • When being groomed by another cat or person

Purring in positive contexts could also be further reinforced by folks who continue to perform the behaviour that caused the purring as they find listening to purring enjoyable – thus the cat learns that purring causes the favoured behaviour to continue.

It’s worth noting that cats also purr in situations that might be considered negative; when cats are in pain, queens during labour, and while dying.

#4 Kneading

kitten kneading

Stemming from kittenhood nursing behavior, cats will typically knead when they feel safe and comfortable.

Kneading could be a heartwarming behaviour where cats paddle the front paws, usually on a soft surface or the owner’s lap. This behaviour stems from kittenhood when kittens knead mum while feeding to stimulate milk flow.

Kneading persisted into adulthood mostly takes place just before settling down or when your cat is feeling content, relaxed, and adored.

#5 Grooming

cat sniffing man's hair

Social grooming, also called allogrooming, is a sign of social bonding and is associated with bonding and security.

Cats spend lots of time self-grooming and allogrooming (two cats grooming one another). Similarly, when your cat licks your skin, nibbles your hand, or suckles on clothing, they’re presumably engaging in scent exchange to make a grouping scent, meaning you become a part of their family.

#6 Slow Blinking

orange cat in a box looking up at camera

Slow blinking is a sign of contentment and indicated that your cat feels safe around you.

Eyes are important in signalling moods. A brand-new indicator which is under scientific investigation is known as the slow blink. Slow blink succession usually carries with it a series of half-blinks followed by prolonged eye narrowing or closure.

The slow blink appears to be directed towards humans rather than other cats. It signifies a positive emotional message within which a cat is comfortable with the individual presence or accepts their attention and trust, however it isn’t an invite to come closer necessarily.

To help relax your kitty, respond by blinking slowly in their direction and shift your gaze away to seem non-threatening.

How To Make Your Cat Love You?

Follow the below tips to increase your cat-human relationship!

#1 Guard Against Anthropomorphism

cat interacting with human

When you’re working in deepening your bond with your cat, it’s important to keep their needs in mind and not anthropomorphize.

Learn as much as you can about felines and what motivates their behaviour.

‘Mother’ but don’t smother your cat with emotions and approachability, avoid picking them up unless necessary.

Provide your cat the flexibility to maintain a sense of control during social contact. Option to initiate an interaction and leave when desired.

Moggies like hiding and sleeping uninterrupted, respect their need for space and serenity – don’t take it personally since they prefer to be alone.

#2 Enhance Your Cat’s Environment!

Enriching your cat’s environment can help them to feel more bonded to you. In addition to indoor enrichment, this can involve taking your cat outside on a leash or letting them out in a safe enclosure.

Enhancing your pet’s environment means providing them not only a secure home that meets their specific needs but also a ‘natural’ environment that pleases their individual and instinctive needs.

Cats love three-dimensional living. Height isn’t only pleasing, a form of exercise, but necessary as a security platform and concealment from predators.

Also Read: How To Make A Cat Love You In 3 Easy Steps?

Aromatic stimulation with scent trails consisting of garden leaves and herbs like catmint or catnip can be established for your cat indoors or hidden in boxes.

A recent study concluded that cat enclosures provide a practical solution for indoor and free-roaming cats, it removes the requirement for wandering and has been related to positive changes within the cat’s quality of life and owner’s safety concerns.

#3 Inspire Daily Consistent Human-Cat Bond

Spending time with your cat in a species-appropriate way will help to strengthen the love and bond between the two of you.

A positive cat-human relationship is useful for both species, it strengthens the love and bond we share for each other. Research shows that pet owners who have a stronger bond with their pet visit the vet more frequently, are more likely to offer preventative care, and more likely to try what the vet recommends (Lue et al 2008).

All you need to do is maintain predictability together with routine to minimize stress, which helps their overall health and welfare.

Allow them to take charge of social interactions, provide opportunities for play (which is ultimately hunting behavior), and recognize your cat’s needs. Give them plenty of time to become aware of new situations, places, children and other people.

#4 Introduce Novelty Objects and Encounters

how to make your cat love you

While it’s important to maintain a stable environment for your cat, introducing new scents and other sensory experiences helps to enrich their life.

Cats are explorative animals; they use their sense of smell in many behaviours. They’ll respond differently to the same odour when detected at various times. Hence, cats take pleasure in the introduction of novel food, items, and encounters on regular basis.

Supervised olfactory enrichment activities with the use of herbs and/or silver vine, scent sticks made up of PVC pipe scented with lavender or chamomile, fresh grass clippings, and valerian can be added.

Experiment with fresh food like melon, watermelon, spinach, lettuce, cabbage, and raw meat (those fed wet/dry food).

Also Read: Which Fruits Can Cats Eat?

Trial plant material like tree branches, hay, straw and take indoor cats on leash or pram walks (once fully desensitized to equipment).

#5 Engage in Daily Interactive Play

two orange kittens playing

Engaging in regular interactive play with your cat will keep them stimulated, calm, and happy.

Interactive playtime mimics predatory behaviour and should be part of your regular routine. Play encourages exercise, decreases boredom, helps maintain regular weight, prevents behaviour problems, and is particularly important for indoor cats.


Cats are fascinating species who communicate ‘love’ and devotion in an exceedingly different manner reliant on the context of the situation and owner attachment.

You can reciprocate the love back by observing together with educating yourself regarding felines and admire the differences between us.

Frequently Asked Questions:

Do cats get attached to owners?

Although domestic cats conventionally been viewed as unsociable. There’s large body of evidence to suggest that cats are complex individuals capable of forming deep social relationships with humans.

Do cats forget you?

Although there’s insufficient scientific evidence to verify cat’s memory traits, it’s recognised that certain cats can easily adapt to new environments based on previous memory experiences.

Individual relationships with people, intelligence differences, health conditions and age may affect a cat’s memory. Generally, a cat will remember their owner including associated experiences.

Why do cats lick you?

Cats typically lick themselves during grooming sessions whereas queens lick their kittens while nursing. Allogrooming mainly occurs among siblings or cats with a powerful closeness to boost a social bond.

When a cat expresses affiliative social behaviour by licking a person’s hand or face, this kind of scent exchange discloses sign of affection.

Furthermore, cats are emotionally sensitive, tuned in to their owner’s feelings, you’ll find your cat licking you to soothe your anxiety throughout illness or tough times.

Why do cats rub against you?

Usually, when our moggies rub against items, they leave a chemical scent to proclaim the item or area as their territory, it’s theorized that facial rubbing towards humans communicates possible ownership, close social bond and acceptance.

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About Melina Grin

Melina’s love of animals began in childhood, when she would care for sick or stray dogs and cats while dreaming of becoming a Vet. While working in the Veterinary field she found a distinct interest and passion in Small Animal Rehabilitation and Feline Behaviour. Melina is the proud director of Pet Nurture in Sydney, Australia (Unique Mobile Animal Wellness Centre specialising in Cats). Melina is currently studying to become a qualified Veterinary Nurse with a view to progressing to Animal Behaviour Therapy

11 thoughts on “6 Subtle Signs Your Cat Loves You

  1. Darlene P Saltalamachia

    What are good wet cat food brands for early kidney disease that do not need a Vet Rx ?

    1. Ta

      Raw food is best, just learn how to deal with potential harmful bacteria, i.e, dipping/blanching with boiling water.

    1. small mallory photoMallory Crusta

      Hi Matt! Are you asking how to get your cat to stop biting your toe? The answer really depends on the situations in which this behavior occurs—is it playful, or is it a reaction to overstimulation or unwanted touch? When a cat plays a little bit too roughly, it’s best to immediately stop playing and become completely still, not giving the cat the opportunity to chase. Some like to yelp and pull away as soon as the cat hurts you. This helps to communicate to the cat that you’re not having fun. Aggressive or defensive behavior can come from a variety of sources and has a number of solutions, so I’d recommend reading this article on the subject. It’s written by a professional cat behaviorist and should be able to help you out.
      Hope this helps! – Mallory

  2. Michael

    Unless I missed it, you didn’t mention pupils. My cat’s eyes sometimes look like black saucers, sometimes just slits. When we play, his pupils change rapidly. What’s up with that, and are there signs of cat love there? Thanks.

    1. Melina Grin Post author

      Great question Michael!

      Pupils dilation indicates a cat’s emotional arousal of either pleasure, excitement, fear or frustration. To enhance your bond, avoid staring at your cat’s eyes, instead, blink slowly and wait for him to blink back and approach you. By blinking slowly back, you communicate trust moreover you aren’t a threat. You can learn more about your cat’s eyes and what can blinking means at https://allaboutcats.com/cat-blinking

      Hope this helps

  3. Jacqueline walden

    Cats are very intelligent I was robbing my cats left ear up and down enjoying the rubbing and the massage low and behold she turned too me over too the right and demanding me too rub her right side I was astonished when she did this very intelligent and spoiled creatures that’s my furbaby spoiled thanks Jacky Walden Erlanger Ky.

    1. Melina Grin Post author

      Totally agree Jacqueline, cats are very intelligent and sensitive sentients. Thank you for reading our article, have a lovely day, Melina

  4. Peter Robinson

    My 8 year old female black cat has Stage 3 of 4 stages of Chronic Kidney Disease…has lost 20% of body weight and now eats and drinks little…given this is a terminal condition any ideas how to make her life the best?


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